The one magic word that everybody knows. Does it work? No, of course it doesn’t.
Everyone has their own opinions and I feel that having a personal relationship with the spirits (fae/ deities/ saints/angels / whatever you wish to call them) is the most important part of working together.
Just as I would not dream of writing out a speech to read to my best friend, I speak what is in my mind. I concentrate my thoughts and very often my conversations with spirit take the form of feeling rather than spoken words. Images, sensations of what I would like to happen (a friend recovering from an illness or abusive relationship) are what I use most.
You can, of course, go on the Internet or buy books and find ready-written spells for all purposes plus a list of ingredients that will leave your local crystal shop owners rubbing their hands with glee. Having gone through a lifetime of this work, whatever I cannot find in Nature can be seen in in my mind’s eye or perhaps it is not even necessary.
Magic is emotion, channeled, controlled and visualised. No amount of reciting other people’s words (especially dum di dum doggerel which drives me mad) will make it work better. Saying what is in your heart, for me, is how it works best.
Are you a parent? Do you remember those glue-sodden, glitter-shedding, badly-drawn cards that your children brought home from school? Did they not touch your heart much more deeply than eye-wateringly expensive satin hearts that play a tune? Yes, I think they did. And I think Spirit feels the same.