Unusual bit of “serious” today.
I recently had cause to examine the way I say things. Goodness knows, I complain often enough about the “tone” of other people’s posts on FB so it seemed only fair. I’m not normally into “psycho-babble” in a big way but this conclusion was blindingly obvious.
Everyone is responsible for their own actions but only I am responsible for my reactions.
Simple, isn’t it? Quite fitting for the Solstice, festival of returning light that I should receive this bit of enlightenment having lit a candle to welcome back the longer days. Like many of the most simple solutions, it may be rather hard to put into practice. It means that instead of saying “So-and-so has just upset/angered/annoyed me.” I have to change my perspective to make it read “So-and-so said or did something and I allowed it to upset/anger/annoy me.” This changes the perspective and puts the onus on me to control my own feelings and act accordingly. Looked at in this new light, it is my own fault if I’m unhappy and I can deal with that far more easily.
This is work in progress and I’ll let you know how it goes but, as others have said that my trot along the path of mental health problems helps them in some way, I thought I’d share it.